Saturday, October 22, 2011

This guy

Is my hero.
I know it's blurry, but I love it. It's the epitome of what it's like in the Solomon household.

Remember those writing prompts in elementary to write about your hero? I always had a hard time with those. That's not to say I didn't have great people in my life that I looked up to. Maybe it was because I knew my hero would come around later in life. After 21 years of trying to figure things out on my own, Clint came into my life. Now we get to figure it all out together. Plus, we get to hold hands the whole time. How cool is that?

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I have always felt so terrible inconveniencing anyone. When I was in the hospital I would wait until a friend or a family memeber got there to have them help me to the restroom or get some water so I didn't have to ask the already way understaffed nurses. After all, it did take 10 hours for them to have someone clean the vomit off my floor. Gross. That's another story for never. Even at a young age I was fixing my own dinners, doing my own laundry, and planning out my day on a whiteboard. Yes I really did that. [only then it was like 3-4 homework. 4-5 Lizzie McGuire. Dinner 5-6. Read 6-7. Oh the life!] I've always been a "I do it myself" girl. I pride myself on being low maintenance. 

Marriage is a one-of-a-kind relationship. It's all about give and take. You are there for each other. Their problems are your problems and your problems are theirs. It's a partnership. You have a teammate!
 I still have a hard time with the receiving side. I've been stressing out like mad since I met with that devil man on Wednesday. Me being stressed, upset, and venting to Clint turns into me feeling difficult. I hate feeling like I'm difficult. I hate to inconvenience him and bring him down with my issues. Does anyone else feel like this? When I let Clint help, I feel bad for being such a difficult wife. He, being the sweetheart that he is always explains to me that he wants to be there for me. I know. I picked a good one. I know that he's being honest, but it was still hard for me to feel like it was okay.

I talked to my therapist about it yesterday [among more serious things] because it was bugging me. She really helped me put it into perspective. She explained that sometimes I might be having a bad day and I might need his help but that doesn't take away all the reasons he married me. He married me because he loves me and I'm still that same person. I can still be a good wife and have hard days. I know this may sound silly, but it really helped me. It also helped that she's way better at explaining things than I am. Point in case, everyone should see a therapist at some point! They're awesome!

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I really am so grateful to have such a sweet husband.
I love that he tells me almost every morning that I'm gorgeous, even though the mirror tells me otherwise :)
I love that most nights we lay in bed talking and laughing for a good ten minutes before falling asleep.
I love that he gets my jokes and still thinks I'm hilarious after a YEAR! [oh yeah, I forgot to tell you, we met over a year ago now! In August. Woot woot!]
I love that my puppy face makes him burst into laughter no matter what.
I love that he gives the best hugs.
I love that he thinks I'm going to make the world's best mom. [others, myself included, would disagree. Oh, and no I'm not pregnant.]
I love that we never go a day without laughing.
I love being married!
for a thousand other reasons...

Oh, and I really like to wake up to that face erry day!

18 comments:

Carlie said...

You two are so cute!

I agree that it can be hard to accept help from people. I like how your therapist put it though--that is doesn't take away from the reasons he married you.

I used to love Lizzie McGuire (I forgot about that show until you said it on your old to-do list).

Katie said...

LOVE all of this. So true. And well said. [Maybe YOU should be a therapist. :)] Also, I had a dream that somehow involved you and Clint. I can't really remember how. I promise I am not a creeper.

Candace Stevenson said...

ahh you two are such an attractive couple! :) I wish I could relate on being married is the best but I need to get married first haha. Cute blog!

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Kaycie- Redhead Memories said...

How sweet are you two?! I'm the same way sometimes, when I worry about inconveniencing the husband. Except I kind of feel that way with a lot of people. But marriage is the best. I love having someone always there to support you and love you. What a blessing it is.

Nikskie said...

you two are so cute,,
and it's great to have someone, who we know, will be there for us everyday

Kari said...

Very sweet post! Marriage is such an amazing thing! I love it! :)

The Presutti's said...

This is so sweet!! It made me really happy! Sounds like you guys really love each other and have a wonderful marriage!! I love my hubby too!

amy (metz) walker said...

GREAT pic of you two...both of them. So happy you are happy!

Purposely at Home said...

sweet post!

lowercase letters said...

aw! that's sweet right there. i'm sure he really appreciates you. :)
{and my personal opinion, i think you are a very pretty person}

Chelsea said...

You two are probably the cutest. Can I get an amen? (Amen.)

And I know that Lizze McGuire wasn't the main theme of this post, but holy crap, I wish that goodness was on Netfliz-ix. I would be basking in that goodness all day.

You are such a beautiful person, and I love how open and honest you are. And your therapist should probably be giving you a commission for selling therapy to your hundreds of readers. Like 10%, or something. I'm totally down for it now!

Megan said...

Y'all are SO stinking cute!! I adore y'all!!

katilda said...

i want to print this line out and hang it on my wall, it tickled me so much: "That's another story for never." bahaha well played, well played.

Shalyn said...

This is adorable. I love what you wrote about him loving you even on your hard days- your therapist is smart and that is something I need to remember as well:-)

Courtney B said...

sweetest. post. EVER!
This made my heart melt a little, I'm not even lying. Ok, I am a little, because I'd probably die if my heart melted even a little. But gosh, marriage is so worth all the hard trying times. Love like this is so hard to come by these days. You two are my heroes!
(fyi, we've been watching Heroes on netflix, totally addicting. I'm not talking about those kind of heroes when I talk about you and Clint. This has got to be the most random comment you've ever received from me!)

Amanda said...

Such a sweet, sweet post! I love your appreciation for your man!

Ashley Eliza said...

i love each and every word about this post. thanks for being so wonderful! and umm i am in love with that pic of you guys. you must frame it! i can't wait til i find my someone. you keep me inspired.

xoxo

Courtney said...

You two look like you have SOOOO much fun just being together! Cute couple!