Has someone told you that before?
Does it drive you as bonkers as it does me?
My first inclination is always to spout off this long laundry list of things that have gone wrong in my life, unfair situations I've been put in, and just plain crumby areas in my journey of life. Because THEN they'd understand. The truth is, they probably never will. And telling someone my struggles to prove a point has just never seemed right to me for one reason of another.
People have problems. I think to assume someone has no problems would be ignorance at it's finest.
First off, it's not a competition. Your life is completely separate from someone else's. It's not a competition to see whose life sucks more, has more success, or more pain or happiness. It's it funny we compare both ways? Competing whose is either worse or better?
Second, it's not even like comparing apples to oranges- it's more like comparing a kiwi to a spaceship. Really, it's impossible. Plus everyone's lives have points where they're going more smoothly than others. I feel like looking at another persons life when it's going better, is only going to make your life seem worse to you. That accomplishes no good whatsoever. And because someone's life seems to be going great, it doesn't mean it is, and it definitely doesn't mean they haven't have their fair share of un fair circumstances in the past.
Can I get an amen?
Thirdly, because someone doesn't talk about their problems doesn't mean they don't exist. It's silly to assume that you can know everything about someone....ever. People cope differently with issues. Some people prefer to handle things themselves, others feel better if everyone around them knows what they're going through. There isn't a correct answer.
Fourth, just because someone is happy or positive doesn't mean they aren't going through some monster trial. Way bigger than the monsters kids check their closest for. It's possible that they could find a thousand reasons to be negative, grumpy, or angry, but they choose to look at the five reasons they have to be happy.
Basically, my point is that it's safe to assume that it's never safe to make assumptions.
But somehow, it's almost an instinct. How? and WHY?!
You know guys, sometimes us humans just don't make sense!