tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post9063190705055892257..comments2023-12-16T05:08:37.501-08:00Comments on Alexis Laughs: I Struggle as a MotherAlexis Kayehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13078793693594634917noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-22186298735359929302013-10-30T08:54:10.689-07:002013-10-30T08:54:10.689-07:00I too am struggling with thinking of having a seco...I too am struggling with thinking of having a second baby. My first just turned 2 and she's at the temper tantrum stage, so very difficult to even contemplate another one right now. But, I wish I could you know give my first a playmate. Roshii Sennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01451685938445685181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-80370805274521188792013-09-13T18:21:31.852-07:002013-09-13T18:21:31.852-07:00Yes yes and yes! I'm so glad that I just found...Yes yes and yes! I'm so glad that I just found your blog and wow, this post hit home. There are more than one day that I feel like-and I really do-look like crap. I have to rush a shower, rush getting into clothes and rush doing anything in the ams when Sawyer is asleep. That means my make-up and hair take a backseat. Thanks for this post and I'm a new follower. Jess at Just Rainbows and Butterflieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09805269916951674145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-10458903255051198812013-09-13T13:02:41.772-07:002013-09-13T13:02:41.772-07:00Here's to the new moms, may we remember how di...Here's to the new moms, may we remember how difficult it was in the early days when we are old, seasoned mothers and grandmothers. Both to know what we've endured, and also to know what others are enduring when we offer our advice/wisdom/experience so that we can be reassuring and most of all, understanding. Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04090526988024194775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-26686325271863824982013-09-11T16:32:59.677-07:002013-09-11T16:32:59.677-07:00So, I have no mothering experience to my name but ...So, I have no mothering experience to my name but I can say that I appreciate your honesty and willingness to be vulnerable. I'm a big believer that only good can come from that. It gives other people something to relate to, and gives you a chance to just LET IT OUT and hear words of support from other people. I've been doing that through my whole "I can't find a permanent job" summer adventure/crazy-move-to-California phase, and it makes me feel vulnerable and transparent a lot, but it's also been A LOT better for me than it would have been to keep it inside. (Trust me, I tried that "be perfect and don't tell anyone you're having a hard time" thing and all it resulted in was anxiety attacks and therapy my senior year of college.) I love this post and admire your honesty. It's a good thing and you are a good thing and California is a good thing and In N Out for dinner is a good thing amen. p.s. go to the beach sometime, it helps. katildahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17794183122186770465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-34846327347996399732013-09-11T13:53:26.596-07:002013-09-11T13:53:26.596-07:00Gosh you are right. This is a tough gig, being a m...Gosh you are right. This is a tough gig, being a mom. There is some great advice in those comments up there^^ My little girl has been one tough baby who turned into a tough toddler. So there is 3 1/2 years between her and the one I am pregnant with. Because it took that long for me to feel ready! But I will say this- give yourself some extra slack while you are not sleeping through the night. That took us 18 months to get down and it was ROUGH. But once I was getting uninterrupted sleep, and my baby was older and not as demanding as a little baby, I noticed I could process the thoughts of "this is a 24/7 job thatnevvvverrrrends" a lot better. <br /><br />also I read this post today and thought it was such a good reminder: http://www.greatmanythings.com/2013/09/you-are-not-enough.html<br /><br />Keep your chin up :) And don't be afraid to talk to someone when it comes to needing help with PPD. Heaven knows that shiz is real.-Danica-https://www.blogger.com/profile/10303457395938139856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-79218558515914307332013-09-11T12:19:09.095-07:002013-09-11T12:19:09.095-07:00I just read this article and it made me think of y...I just read this article and it made me think of you. I hope you can appreciate it and relate with it. <br /><br />http://mamaseeds.com/blog/baby-sleep-training/new-mamas-get-nothing-done-and-other-untruths/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13228881399112778126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-64045500798669865532013-09-11T10:55:26.621-07:002013-09-11T10:55:26.621-07:00You are not alone. You are not alone. You are not ...You are not alone. You are not alone. You are not alone. <br /><br />And when it comes to more than one child? Two is easier than one. It just is. They have a playmate, you're older and wiser--not to say you're immature and dump, but with time comes experience.(Now, don't ask me about three because that's crazy again). <br /><br />After my first my PPD was TERRIBLE. I cried all of the time. He cried all of the time. But the sun did shine again. Around 10 months old things just clicked. My biggest regret, though, is not getting help before then. With kids 2 and 3 I immediately started seeing a therapist (LDS Family Services is da bomb) and taking meds (you can take Zoloft and BF). <br /><br />Just, again, know you are not alone. I will be praying for you. Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04992199063959758164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-42910316553762134922013-09-11T10:43:47.815-07:002013-09-11T10:43:47.815-07:00No one is a supermom, Alexis! We all just do the b...No one is a supermom, Alexis! We all just do the best we can.<br /><br />I remember having similar thoughts with my first baby. How would I ever have any more kids? I could barely handle the one I had. <br /><br />One day, you will wake up and Ainsley will be talking, walking, getting herself dressed, entertaining herself, using the potty and actually communicating with you. You will open your eyes and see that your baby is growing into a child and children -- yes, they have unique and demanding needs of their own -- are not babies. And then you'll find the strength to have more children. If it is what you want, you will have that desire.<br /><br />It is hard to see the forest when you are surrounded by tall, thick trees. But believe me when I say that babies don't keep. And yes, some are harder than others. That is why my "baby" and the next child will be over 4 years apart! That was absolutely intentional. Some people feel sorry for me because they think I couldn't get pregnant and that's why my kids are going to be SOOOOOOO far apart. I just laugh because honestly, I don't even know if that will be enough of a gap!<br /><br />There will be days when you feel like a failure, and there will be days when you feel like the best mother in the world. Just know that everyone else is experiencing the same ups and downs as you are and no one has it easy. Well, except maybe celebrities who can hire nannies and chefs. Jenna Footehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06053037054553243481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-55851143827436746562013-09-11T05:28:00.962-07:002013-09-11T05:28:00.962-07:00So I was super depressed when I moved to Cedar and...So I was super depressed when I moved to Cedar and one of my clients (who is married to the head ER doctor in St G) told me there are 3 things that usually trigger temporary (or permanent) depression in any person. Moving, major life change, and I can't remember the third. We had just moved (against everything that I wanted) and I got pregnant. While the first was super hard for me, the second I'd been wanting for years! But it was a hormone change and yadda yadda. You've already talked about postpardum (sp?) and now this huge (and exciting but still scary) move! Not to mention your lack of sleep.... I think you're AMAZING! Yes your days are hard, and they are probably harder considering this was a big surprise (having Ainsley) and it will take some major time to adjust. When we moved to northern Utah I stopped working except for once week a month when I'd go back to St G. I was felt so lame not contributing to the family more. Looking back I'm glad I went through that before ever getting pregnant because when you're used to working and school full time, well, I just felt like a failure doing none of it. But I believe you'll look back someday and be so grateful for these days! You'll love that you were able to stay home! You're the best thing ever for your sweet Ainsley pot!<br />Also, I admit that I really love this being a mom thing. I think it's super easy (not rubbing it in your face, hear me out) and the bad days are super rare over here. But I'm still scared to have more. I don't even want to think about having more kids for YEARS. I had a dream once that I was pregnant and I woke up super angry and ornery the whole day. So what does that say about me? Yikes!Courtney Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00932251648323616331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-17085857441883071922013-09-10T21:32:10.018-07:002013-09-10T21:32:10.018-07:00Alexis, you are an amazing mother, just even the f...Alexis, you are an amazing mother, just even the fact that you are so worried about it shows that. That video has gotten me through some tough times. I went through a phase where I had to watch it every day. I think we will all experience ups and downs, joys and sorrows in mothering just like everything else in life. I can finally say I am proud of myself as a mom and have gotten ok with letting some things go. It took trauma to do that for me though. I know you'll make it through this.Chelsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14966103134876118724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-13231968054252844242013-09-10T19:15:21.915-07:002013-09-10T19:15:21.915-07:00I can totally relate to you most days. Being a mo...I can totally relate to you most days. Being a mom is rough stuff, but so worth it! I just have to remind myself how fast time goes by in those hard seconds that seem to drag on for days.Whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00661973679165271757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-81398908403620161972013-09-10T19:12:00.909-07:002013-09-10T19:12:00.909-07:00Umm yes, you nailed it. Some days are so so SO har...Umm yes, you nailed it. Some days are so so SO hard! Thankful for each and every little smile, laugh, and love these babies give! I feel like that's their way of telling us they DO love us and don't mean to make our hair fall out (literally and figuratively!). And you just helped me come to a realization, I have been ravenous when it comes to sweets for these past couple months. One cookie? Who eats one? Give me TEN! Thank you motherhood! :) Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00617258384176329511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-54159164702528031742013-09-10T15:48:55.983-07:002013-09-10T15:48:55.983-07:00*tears*tearsTiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072958247842796066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-50242243913857160422013-09-10T15:48:21.699-07:002013-09-10T15:48:21.699-07:00Ya don't worry, nearly every night this week h...Ya don't worry, nearly every night this week has ended in years (from me). I fall apart quite often. And get yourself a chocolate stash for these days! Unfortunately, I really go through mine, hahaTiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072958247842796066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-44013105579341668682013-09-10T15:40:45.648-07:002013-09-10T15:40:45.648-07:00wish you were on twitter where we all commiserate ...wish you were on twitter where we all commiserate together!! motherhood is rough. Meredith Tuttlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02715262566394911594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-4183329247092997772013-09-10T15:21:59.915-07:002013-09-10T15:21:59.915-07:00Alexis, you are awesome. Thank you for being so ca...Alexis, you are awesome. Thank you for being so candid. Also, there was a CES fireside on Sunday by Elder Nelson and he said something awesome. He essentially said that mothers have more of an impact on the economy raising children in the home than a man working in the actual work force does. What you are doing is amazing and important, and you are doing GREAT :)Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15406898097386545299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2869485690556227725.post-7032771628199845652013-09-10T15:18:05.183-07:002013-09-10T15:18:05.183-07:00You are the coolest, Alexis! I totally look up to ...You are the coolest, Alexis! I totally look up to you. Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13322810473929137746noreply@blogger.com